Friday, December 23, 2011
Since Breastfeeding is not about control or perfectionism ( nor should it be) it
does not fit the "model" women have now become accustomed to. Which I believe
is the corporate model set up by men. You know, constant micro-managing,
competition, over-evaluating, where A&B equal C, more is better, if it's free -how good could it be? and there is an agenda -always an agenda!
Correct me if I'm wrong, but in order to effectively compete with men in the business world
-women have had to think like men. This "corporate thinking" does not bode well
for breastfeeding and mothering in general. But it works beautifully for the infant marketing industry!
In my practice demographic - mostly high socio-economic, two-income families, control and
perfectionism runs long and deep. This, of course, only sets one up for anxiety
and depression. If one can't control it then it's too stressful and if it's not perfect immediately, it's deemed a waste of time- Exhausted/ fearful/disillusioned/ disappointed and desperate -one reaches for anything that brings them back to their "comfort zone" of control. In this case: bottle-feeding and/
or pumping. And guess who's ready to swoop down when this happens? We all know who those players are.
This pervasive mindset of control and perfectionism has set the stage for the most effective marketing strategy I believe history has ever seen - newborn product sales especially the infant feeding industry.
What can you do? Put the "corporate" mindset aside (that's fine for work) and tap into the feminine/maternal side of you....it's in there somewhere! Don't fall for the capitalism, commercialism and undermining marketing, that is stealing you from your child. Money does not equal love. Success in business does not equal success in parenting. Embrace and celebrate what makes us different as women. The tenderness, patience and fortitude to do what's right by your child comes from your heart, not your head.....or wallet.
Even though it is fine to "partake", I think it helps to remind ourselves that too much alcohol can impair one's ability to respond and safely parent as baby needs -- no matter how baby is fed.
So it is not as much the amount of alcohol present in your milk ( its too unstable to stay there very long) but the level of impairment you experience. Most of alcohol-related consequences are not breastfeeding issues, per se. but impairment ones.
So be smart and responsible: pay attention to how much you've had and your body's reaction to it - eat and drink lots of water.
If you get intoxicated: do not drive, have someone else care for your baby, do not co-sleep or nurse until you are sober. Only pump if you need to and discard that milk (until you are sober)
Please do not waste your money on alcohol test strips as they are not at all accurate or necessary.
For further info: This article from Thomas Hale's Infant Risk Center site can be helpful, whether breastmilk is direct from the source or expressed):
Enjoy and be safe
Thursday, December 15, 2011
I know I look so big to you,
Maybe I seem too big for the needs I have.
But no matter how big we get,
We still have needs that are important to us.
I know that our relationship is growing and changing,
But I still need you. I need your warmth and closeness,
Especially at the end of the day
When we snuggle up in bed.
Please don't get too busy for us to nurse.
I know you think I can be patient,
Or find something to take the place of a nursing;
A book, a glass of something,
But nothing can take your place when I need you.
Sometimes just cuddling with you,
Having you near me is enough.
I guess I am growing and becoming independent,
But please be there.
This bond we have is so strong and so important to me,
Please don't break it abruptly.
Wean me gently,
Because I am your mother,
And my heart is tender.
by Cathy Cardall
Happy Holidays & Healthy New Year !